1. littlebitsoflust:

    Natalie Dormer on Women and Body Image in Hollywood during SDCC 2014 (x)

    I love Dormer!

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  2. catsbooksandcoffee:

    This was literally my dad.

     
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  5. hello-missdolly:

    illuminotus:

    hiddlesherethereeverywhere:

    ivorysorrows:

    lil-miss-choc:

    bonerack:

    princessnecrophilia:

    weeaboo-chan:

    vhscars:

    protest-resources:

    50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada

    Use, redistribute, print. 

    Click image and magnify for large version.

    Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

    so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex

    it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine

    i know my shit okay

    im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

    Let me

    just

    fucking

    drop

    some fucking

    knowledge on you right now.

    Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.

    So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

    Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.

    Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.

    Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.

    Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

    And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.

    What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.

    And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.

    All of this. Anyone who is thinking about experimenting with a BDSM relationship PLEASE do not use this book as a guide. It can be VERY dangerous if not done correctly and safely. Communication is a HUGE FUCKING PART of a BDSM sexual relationship and it is simply not catered to in this book. There are tons of fanfiction authors on here and on AO3 who do BDSM justice. They write about safe words, aftercare, consent, all of it. Go find some of those instead of using this as a guide. 

    Yesterday a fifteen year old follower of mine said “christian grey is everything I want in a man reading fifty shades of grey was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made” we need to educate and help people understand how this novel isn’t healthy

    Fucking terrifying.

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  6. tastefullyoffensive:

    Animals With Unusual Fur Markings [bp]

    Previously: Cats Sitting Like HumansBunnies Sticking Their Tongues Out

     
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  8. tastefullyoffensive:

    Artist Chris McMahon buys other people’s landscape paintings at thrift stores and puts monsters in them.

    Previously: Artist Repaints His Own Childhood Drawings

     
  9. scxmbvg:

    BIG DOGS THAT THINK THEY’RE SMALL LAP DOGS ARE MY FAVORITE DOGS IN THE ENTIRE WORLD

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  10. lacigreen:

    joponyhere:

    lillianloverly:

    THIS IS A PSA

    THIS APP IS CALLED SAFETREK AND IS ABSOLUTELY INVALUABLE TO ANYONE WALKING ANYWHERE WHERE THEY DONT FEEL SAFE

    YOU ENTER YOUR INFO AND SET A PIN AND THEN WHENEVER YOU DONT FEEL SAFE, YOU HOLD DOWN THE BLUE BUTTON UNTIL YOU DO

    ONCE YOU RELEASE THE BUTTON, YOU HAVE 10 SECONDS TO ENTER YOUR PIN, AND IF YOU DONT THE POLICE WILL BE NOTIFIED OF YOUR LOCATION AND DISTRESS CALL

    I TRULY BELIEVE THIS APP CAN HELP SOMEONE OUT THERE SO PLEASE DOWNLOAD IT

    https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/safetrek/id716262008?mt=8

    signal boost the shit out of this

    THIS IS AMAZING SPREAD THE WORD

     
  11. charminglyantiquated:

    a little love story about mermaids and tattoos

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  12. tastefullyoffensive:

    More creations from French Girls, an iPhone app where people draw portraits based on selfies of others. [via]

    Previously: Part One

     
  13. lacigreen:

    micdotcom:

    Forget the spreadsheet, here’s an easy flowchart to know if a women owes you sex

    Microsoft Excel took a turn for the explicit this week when the Internet learned the once-innocuous office tool was being used in a dispiriting new bro-trend: using the software to track of the number of times their partners refuse sex. Yes, #sexspreadsheets are a thing, presumably because some men still believe that owning of a penis entitles them to unlimited sexy times.

    Sorry, guys, that’s just not the way the world works | Follow micdotcom 

    sometimes i just cant believe this is the 21st century

     
  14. Mom’s new surprise #ink let’s hope this is the last of these…

     
  15. fernwah:

    oh man she just said it 

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